Adult Counselling with Becky
Most people don’t wake up one morning and think, You know what sounds fun? Therapy!
Usually, something has been building for a while.
Maybe you’re anxious all the time and you’re tired of your brain running through every possible worst-case scenario. Maybe you’re burned out, your relationship is struggling, something happened that you can’t quite get past, or you’ve spent so long taking care of everyone else that you’re not even sure what you need anymore.
Or maybe nothing is obviously “wrong.”
On paper, your life might actually look pretty good. But you’re not enjoying it the way you thought you would. You’re irritated more often. You’re exhausted. You’re overthinking everything. You keep repeating the same patterns, having the same arguments, or wondering why you can understand exactly what you’re doing and still can’t seem to stop doing it.
That counts too.
My Approach
I’m not the kind of therapist who is going to sit silently across from you, nod thoughtfully for 50 minutes, and occasionally ask, “And how does that make you feel?”
I’m curious. I ask questions. I’ll help you notice patterns and make connections. Sometimes I’ll challenge you. Sometimes we’ll talk about practical things you can try this week. And sometimes you really do just need somewhere to say the thing you haven’t been able to say anywhere else.
There’s room for all of it.
I draw from evidence-based approaches including EMDR and CBT, but I don’t believe therapy should feel like a formula. We’ll figure out what makes sense for you based on what’s happening, what you want to change, and how you tend to make sense of the world.
Things We Might Talk About
People come to counselling for all kinds of reasons, including:
Anxiety and the brain that simply will not turn off
Depression or feeling disconnected from yourself
Stress and burnout
Trauma and experiences that still affect you long after they’re over
Relationships, communication, and repeating the same patterns
Grief and loss
Major life changes
Confidence and self-worth
Perfectionism and being incredibly hard on yourself
Anger or emotions that feel difficult to manage
Work and career stress
Neurodiversity and understanding how your brain works
Women’s mental health and perimenopause
Healthcare professional burnout
First responder and veteran mental health
Or that incredibly specific clinical concern of “I don’t know, I just don’t feel like myself anymore.”
What to Expect
The first appointment is mostly a conversation.
I’ll want to know what brought you in, but I’ll also want to know about you. Your life, your relationships, what matters to you, what you’re good at, what you’ve already tried, and what you hope might be different if therapy actually works.
You don’t need to prepare anything.
You also don’t need to tell me your entire life story in the first 50 minutes. We have time.
From there, we’ll start figuring out what’s keeping you stuck and what might actually help.
Do I Actually Need Therapy?
Maybe. Maybe not.
You definitely don’t need to be in crisis.
You can come to therapy because your relationship is struggling. Because you can’t stop worrying. Because something happened ten years ago that you’re finally ready to deal with. Because you’re turning 40 and suddenly questioning half the decisions you’ve made in your life.
You can also come because you’re doing pretty well and want to understand yourself better.
There isn’t a minimum level of suffering required before you’re allowed to ask for some help.
Ready to Get Started?
You don’t need to know exactly what you want to work on.
You can come in with a beautifully articulated therapy goal.
Or you can sit down and say, “Okay, I have no idea where to start.”
We can start there. Exactly where you are.